8 Signs You're Dating the Wrong Person

I saw warning signs like this and have tried to break up with my boyfriend... about 4 times... However, eveytime he says how much he loves me and talks me into staying. He is a very caring, loving, dedicated person and my reasons for wanting to leave ("just not that happy", "thinking of someone else") don't seem to deter him. He is ready to marry me, but I am not in that place. he takes the small gestures I make to be kind as declarations of my love (we also just slept together, which makes it worse). Sometimes maybe I am misleading because I don't want to hurt hum by not reciprocating... But I am severing this relationship with a blunt object? How do I get him to understand that he can't change how I feel?

I'm going through this in a massive way. I've been with my partner for three years and lived together for two. Our whole lives are intertwined and I can't emphasise more just how wonderful he is
He's kind and thoughtful and all the things you could possibly with for
but deep down I've always felt that inherently he's not 'the one'

I feel like if I were to go forward and take the next step with him, like marriage, then i'll always be wondering 'what if', what if i'd made the leap and taken some time apart to figure out if what I'm feeling is just crazy or if it's true.

There's always a risk that if you do realise it's all in your head then by that time, you'll lose him

There's nothing good about this situation and no break ups are ever good.

I just wish I had more of a reason than that niggling feeling that has never gone away...

Ive been in a long distance relationship for almost three years now. When my boyfriend and I first started dating I lived near him, but I was just getting out of a long relationship with a different person. I wasn't automatically swooning over him, or super attracted to him but he was really sweet and caring so I gave him a chance.
I fell in love with him eventually, and was crazy about him. I kept having to move because of my family being in the military and we broke up a few times because of it. The break ups didn't last long, except for one. I was completely crushed and shocked that he would be so cold to me. I was going through so much pain at the time because of other personal issues and I felt like he deserted me when I needed him most. We were not together for about six months, but it seemed like years. Finally as I was getting over him and accepting my new life, he realized he wanted to be together again. Keep in mind we are young, so I knew that the relationship was immature at the time. He wasn't looking for anyone else, he didn't want the stress of a long distance relationship. Now we are together again and it feels like its been years because things are so different. We have accepted each other beyond anything I could imagine, yet there is something missing for me. I feel like since he was the one who initiated the break up he hasn't struggled like I have. I don't feel any pain anymore, but that's the problem. I have a hard time feeling anything too deep. I know I care and that I love him. But I don't know what is going on. I don't want to lose him, but at the same time I find myself questioning "am I truly happy?" or "is this what I want?"
I'd rather not talk to family or friends about this because their opinions are a little too...extreme for what I want. I just need advice. I don't know if the relationship has gotten stale or if I need to revisit some things or what. Anyone willing to voice their opinion is greatly appreciated.

What do you do when you are just about to get married and you just feel there is something not right? How do you separate reality and just plain old suspicion? Is that making phone calls when you are not there and a hang up when you come back in the room, simply being courteous? Are secrets really secrets or just a hard time expressing deep hurts to others beyond her sister?
I was married and was certain I was in the best marriage. Every checklist said it was "the one." How much is your "instinct" and how much is just fear and suspicion you brought from your upbringing? Anyone can start good and turn into a liar. It is when the bad happens, that you have hard decisions. What about the perfect person who turns into a diabetic? When their condition is formed by things outside their life? More than anything, FORGIVENESS is the key. More than anything, check yourself and see what faults you bring in to a relationship. Take the log out of your own eye, before you take the splinter our of another's eye. We all think we are perfect and have our checklists for the other. Sometime, they have their own checklist that we fail. Sometime we are their 'red flag.'

I just stumbled upon this article...talk about a much needed eye opener! I've been dating this guy for the past year. For many reasons I end it with him, only to fall for his verbal assurances that things will be different and he is working on improving himself, but doesn't want to lose me. I think I go back because being alone is far worse then staying with this guy. I spent 2 years actively looking for a mate and met this guy, I was happy with him untill I started discovering all of his faults. These faults seemed to outweight the good stuff over time. Before meeting him I tried Eharmony, with no success. I don't get it because I know I'm not some un-dateable dud.

I just stumbled upon this article...talk about a much needed eye opener! I've been dating this guy for the past year. For many reasons I end it with him, only to fall for his verbal assurances that things will be different and he is working on improving himself, but doesn't want to lose me. I think I go back because being alone is far worse then staying with this guy. I spent 2 years actively looking for a mate and me this guy, I was happy with him untill I started discovering all of his faults. These faults seemed to outweight the good stuff over time. Before meeting him I tried Eharmony, with no success. I don't get it because I know I'm not some un-dateable dud.

Dinger, it sounds like you must be battling severely low self-esteem to want to keep someone in your life who treats you so bad. It sounds like you are caught up in some fantasy that your love can change this man. It can't. He has problems that he needs to deal with. If you keep yourself stuck on this man, the pain will only prolong. I would encourage you to get screened for depression if you haven't already and treated. I would think you must be battling significant low self-worth if you still want to keep this kind of person a part of your life.

This article is what I needed. I met this Mr. Wonderful, all together, Mr. perfect, calm, charming, sophisticated, meticulous, too nice, and collected guy. I thought he's the one. He's so dynamite that he knows how to hook all the women he encounters. He uses the internet dating websites to collect and gather his victims. He showers you with gifts, dinners, movies, vacations, and his expensive toys, until you're caught in his web and fall deeply in love with him.

My first year with him was amazing. Not until I found many signs of other women. In 1996, he met this woman. While dating her, he hooked up with another woman in 1997, then in 1998. Then another one in 2000, then another one in 2001, and another one in 2004, and the list goes on. He goes out and sleeps with all these women, practically seeing two to three women a day. He has women sleeping with him everyday of the week. He calls you, leaves a message to call him back, and when you don't pick up, he calls the other women. By the time you return his call, he's no longer available for you. He's playing the field and got it made!

When I found out all of these, I had already fallen in-love with him. He's so good in covering up and lying about his activities and schemes. He abused all the women and I knew that now, but until now I still love this guy who's a cheater and liar. He made me believed that he really and truly loved me and that I was the only one in his life. I'm hurting really bad and very confused. I know this article is awesome and true, but it's easier to say it than to actually implement it in my situation right now. I always gave him a benefit of a doubt, and that he will change. I know I have to accept the fact that this so called "perfect guy" will not change,but I'm having a difficult time doing so. To make the matters worse, he is a functioning alcoholic, he drinks everyday and calls himself a social drinker, he takes pain pills, smokes marijuana occassionally, and he owns his own business, cheating his clients by charging them over and above the costs of the materials he uses. I am feeling so horrible for myself by hooking up with this kind of man. I hope that there's a way for other women out there to find out about this guy before they get trapped in his web, like I did. He's still out there collecting and gathering women to victimize.

If I've known about all these 8 signs at the very onset of my relationship with this guy, I would have ran at once and save myself a deep heartache!

I know I might be insane, but I still love him and still want to be with him. I tried to convince myself that he will eventually change, but will he? He's still seeing everybody. Should I go back to him? Will he ever stop what's he's doing to women? I'm very confused!